You may be reaching out because you've noticed a pattern you want to change, or because something has happened that brought it into the open. Whether you're taking the first step on your own or facing the impact on your relationship, we'll help you understand what's happening and work out where to begin.
At Known, we specialize in helping people work through unwanted or compulsive sexual behavior, including pornography use, affairs, and secrecy. Our work includes supporting the person changing the behavior, the partner affected by it, and the relationship when couples choose to work toward repair.
We also help people address other patterns that are becoming difficult to manage, including sports betting and gambling, gaming, and compulsive spending or shopping. This can include buying and collecting things like sports cards when it begins to create financial strain, secrecy, or conflict.
Recovery & Unwanted Behaviors
Understanding what keeps the pattern going
We look at what leads up to the behavior, what you turn to it for, and what makes it difficult to change. Together, we'll work on practical ways to respond differently and address the concerns underneath the pattern.
That may involve recognizing situations where you're more likely to struggle, setting workable limits, handling difficult emotions, and building routines and relationships that support change. Honesty and accountability are part of the work, along with understanding what happened and adjusting your approach when you have a setback.
Recovery and your relationships
When a behavior involves secrecy, broken agreements, financial strain, or time away from each other, it can affect trust and connection. Your partner may need support with that impact while you're working to change the behavior.
We help you take responsibility, have more honest conversations, and follow through on changes over time. We also support partners in understanding their own needs and setting boundaries. Recovery and rebuilding trust are connected, but they may move at different paces.
We'll talk with you about what kind of support would be helpful, both for changing the behavior and addressing its impact on your relationship.
Finding a place to start
If a behavior is taking up more of your life than you want it to and you're having trouble changing it, tell us a little about what's happening. We'll help you consider what kind of support makes sense.